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Hey, everyone. Welcome to this week's podcast. We're running a couple days late on the podcast this week, so thank you for your patience. It has been a big week. This week we had the one-day workshop, which was incredible. 

 

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I had a group of coaches there. We were talking about mastering coaching skills. We were talking about the four fundamentals of lasting change. We had an incredible master coach panel. It was absolutely fantastic. 

 

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So those of you that were there, thank you for participating. One of my favorite comments of the day is when someone said, I feel excited about coaching again. And another comment came in right after that saying, I'm going to use this today when I meet with my group and coaching. 

 

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So really big wins. So thank you for being there. And for all of you here, thank you for your patience because last week I was actually traveling. My daughter and I were away visiting family for spring break, doing a little hiking in one of my favorite spots. 

 

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Then we had the one-day workshop, and it's been a whirlwind. So and I decided to just give myself permission to be human and to get this episode to you in a quality way in the timing that worked. So here we are. 

 

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So today's episode is focusing on three key things that are vital for your personal development. Your growth as a partner in relationship, your growth in your health and well-being, your life, your personal development in terms of improving your financial life, your quality of life, all of those things, right? 

 

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And just really the expansion of self, because if you're here, you're interested in growing and expanding. And we're talking about these three keys that are vital for that. These are also the very things that you need to not just know, but understand at a deep level if you are going to facilitate and cultivate a space of change and transformation and growth for others. 

 

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So this applies to you if you are a coach, if you are a mentor, if you are a guide, if you are a healer. So this is what we're talking about. And spoiler alert, these three things are not new to this podcast. 

 

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You've probably heard me talk about these things before, but I decided that in this episode, I want to highlight these three key things that I talk about over and over again and pull them apart a little bit, tease them apart and really understand why they matter. 

 

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Okay. So get ready. We're going to dive in. And I want to tell, oh, oh, before I forget, literally, if you are listening to this the day that it is released, we are one day away from closing enrollment for the spring retreat. 

 

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So I am hosting a reset retreat. It is just a bit an hour north of Dallas. It is going to be phenomenal. Melanie Fay is going to be there. We can still have the option of having four more participants, but this opportunity ends a day after you're listening to this. 

 

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So by Friday, the 27th, that is it. So if you're listening to this and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't want to miss out, email me immediately, team atmollyclare.com, or go to my website and click on retreat. 

 

 04:04

Okay, so I almost forgot that. I'm so glad that that came to my mind. Also, as I am talking about these three points today, I'm going to afterwards be sharing with you an incredible program that I have upcoming. 

 

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We actually begin in April. It is a seven-week intensive program and it is the most low-cost advanced training that I have ever offered. So this is perfect for you. If you followed my work and you haven't quite been ready for master coach training, or maybe you're waiting until next year and you haven't been ready for that time investment, that financial investment, this is the perfect foundation for the core, the heart of the work that I do. So I'm going to be telling you the details of that toward the end of this podcast. Okay. So let's talk about these three things. These are my soapboxes. I will die on the hill saying these over and over again. 

 

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Number one, thought work, aka mindset work, working with thoughts and beliefs in isolation when it is put on a pedestal of thoughts and mindset being everything is detrimental. Okay. Now, I personally was first trained as a coach in a thought work model and it helped me tremendously. 

 

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It changed my life. It changed thousands of people's lives around me. Probably you have been introduced to it and it is amazing. And also, there came a point in time when using this framework as a standalone in isolation without the bigger picture and understanding of trauma, of the nervous system, of emotional needs. 

 

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Without understanding this, this framework, this cognitive approach, mindset approach to coaching can be and will likely be become detrimental to you and your clients. So why is this? Why am I making such a big deal about this? 

 

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And I have another episode about this as well. I can link that in the show notes because I go more in-depth in this. But when we begin to take a look at our thoughts and realize how much our thoughts impact us, it is mind-blowing. 

 

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And it is true that thoughts create feelings. Now, not all emotions begin with a thought. Okay, so that's a topic for another day. But it is also true that thoughts do indeed create feelings for us. And when we begin to realize this, our mind is opened. 

 

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When we begin to realize that the way we are seeing the world and seeing our relationships is based on our thoughts and beliefs, it opens up a whole new world for how things can change. Something I've said often is the way you think about life is how you experience life. 

 

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And so really mind-blowing. And when we begin to understand that thoughts create feelings, it opens up a whole new world of us being able to understand more often why we feel the way we do. And oftentimes, how to get unstuck from many of our feelings as we can see, what is the way I'm looking at this? 

 

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And what is a shift? What is a reframe? What is a mindset in this situation that will be helpful for me? So it is an incredible, incredible tool. And there is truth in the fact that thoughts create feelings and that our thoughts and beliefs impact everything. 

 

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And so why the big deal? Why do I talk about it being detrimental? Here's why. While it's true that thoughts create feelings, we also have a nervous system that has different states that we operate in. 

 

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And so the state of our nervous system will influence the thoughts that we are having. Okay. And so we can see that if we're thinking everything begins with the thoughts, we're missing out on this crucial understanding that we need to understand if we as a human being or our clients are even in a nervous system state to be able to access our prefrontal cortex, to be able to be thinking what we would say clearly, right? To be able to actually manage and navigate our emotions well. So this is one part of it. Another thing that is not talked about enough is that if someone has a lot of trauma and has been victimized and has experienced a lot of blame, the cognitive approach will often become a new way that that person creates blame for themselves. 

 

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And so it's kind of like when we first learn this idea that our thoughts impact everything and that our thoughts about a situation are the reason we are feeling this way, right? And not the situation or the person on their own. 

 

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We go from blaming something outside of us to blaming ourselves, which is not the point of effective, safe thought work. And so when someone has experienced situations where they have been to blame, where they have been at fault, where everything has been turned on them and put on them, inevitably, without the right guidance, they will begin to use thought work against themselves. 

 

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I have seen this with literally thousands of coaches and clients who have gone down this road of taking this tool that was once beneficial to them and moving to a place of, it's my fault that I'm thinking this way. 

 

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It's my fault that I'm feeling this way. I know this is nothing outside of me. This is me. I'm the problem. I should be able to change my thoughts. If I know this, then why can't I change this? And it is not a good place to be. 

 

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It also sets people up to be very vulnerable to unhealthy relationships. And when I say unhealthy, I mean emotionally abusive relationships. Because if I am a person who is going to take over responsibility for situations and I'm thinking everything I'm feeling, everything I'm thinking is all about me. 

 

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It has nothing to do with anything outside of me. Well, then when someone is behaving in a certain way that is indeed not okay, not healthy, abusive, what will I bring to this? I will bring to this, okay, I know it's not really them. 

 

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It's my fault that I'm thinking and feeling this way. And so, and I do have a full episode about how thought work in isolation can be detrimental. So I'm just touching on some highlights, but I want to bring this up because if you use mindset work consistently for yourself, and if you use it with your clients, you need to be aware that not all feelings come from a thought. 

 

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You need to understand more about the nervous system. And I'm going to talk about this in the other two keys actually, is you need to understand more about our emotional world and have that trauma-informed lens. 

 

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Because without this, mindset work becomes a new way for people to criticize themselves, beat themselves up, put too much pressure on themselves. And it becomes a way, this is a big deal. It becomes a way that people create more disconnect with themselves and more disconnect within their relationships rather than it being something that creates a self-connecting self-trust experience. 

 

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Okay. So this is key number one. I'm really serious about this because I've experienced major negative effects from it, the lowest of low in my life, opening the door to a very, very harmful relationship. 

 

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And I have heard from dozens of coaches that have DM'd me and said, I had the same thing happen. So if you use Mindset Work, amazing. It is amazing. And get a broader picture so you can be safe and ethical. 

 

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Okay. Number two that I want to drive home. And this is really about the four fundamentals of lasting change that I teach. Now, of course, this is my framework, but as you're going to hear this, it's not like this is really new information that these things exist, most likely, if you've been in the self-help world for any amount of time. 

 

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So the four fundamentals of lasting change, mind, like we just talked about, mind, understanding emotional needs and how to work with them, understanding the nervous system. So this is one, two, three, and understanding how action strategies and patterns support change. 

 

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These four elements, mind, emotion, nervous system, and action strategies, need to be used in cooperation with one another to have a more full understanding of ourselves in order to create the type of change that is not just lasting, but is deeply transformative. 

 

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And if you think about this, right, you hear about mindset, you hear about the nervous system more and more now, especially. And we understand more about emotions, the validation of emotions, our relationship with emotions. 

 

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I don't think there's enough talk about it, honestly, but we hear about that, right? And we also know that action plans and strategies and writing things down and setting goals, it's all effective. And the problem is that oftentimes these things are taught as a standalone in isolation. 

 

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And I wouldn't say problem because certainly you can focus on one and focus on another, right? But my point is that it's vital that we understand the big picture of ourselves as human beings and of our clients and how our thoughts, our daily thoughts and thought patterns and beliefs are related to our nervous system. 

 

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Our nervous system is the backdrop of all of our thoughts and feelings. And so we can't really pull them apart, right? So we have the mind, we have the nervous system. Every one of you has your own emotional world. 

 

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I like to refer to it, right? Like my, when we get to know our emotional world and we get to know our emotional needs, it is, it is where the traction comes when it comes to creating change. I am 100% convinced of this. 

 

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And this is what I'm going to go more into in just a minute. But understanding your emotional needs and tuning into them and validating them and acknowledging them is where the traction begins in change. 

 

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And action plans and strategies are helpful. They are helpful. And it's like, I remember when I trained at the life coach school, you know, like, I don't know what it's been now, maybe 13 years ago. And there was this big thing, don't coach on the A line, right? 

 

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Like everything is a thought problem was the message. Everything is a thought problem. That is where everything changes, period, end of story. Don't coach people on the A line, meaning don't coach people on their actions, because unless you change the mind, unless you change the thoughts, the actions won't last. 

 

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And while I get the sentiment and the premise that we need to take a look at what's underneath, it's also actually very true that having a plan, having actions, having strategies actually gives us a new circumstance that we will inevitably have new thoughts about. 

 

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Sometimes a plan of action and some things to help us stay on track can support and shift the mindset and the belief sets that we want to change, right? We can have behaviors that we put in place and it lends itself to an identity shift or a belief shift. 

 

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And so all this being said, when we are implementing change and when you are implementing change for your clients, yes, you need to understand about the mind. You also must know about emotional needs and how that plays into where your client gets stuck, where they want to go. 

 

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You also need to understand enough about the nervous system to know what states of the nervous system exist and what are the clues as to where you or your client is at any given time. And it's also really important that your plan, your actions, your strategy incorporates this more whole view, has the nervous system in mind, has patterns in mind that happen in our mind and in our emotions. 

 

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When these work together, it allows, I just, the word that comes to me, it's like a masterful experience of coaching. It allows you to work with yourself and work with your clients to implement change and move forward in a way where you are helping yourself every step along the way and attending to the needs that you or your client has in the moment. 

 

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Do I need support with mindset? Do I have emotional needs? Do I need some nervous system regulation? Do I need a plan on pen and with pen and paper right now? So this is number two. These things need to work together. 

 

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Okay. Number three, you have emotional needs and so do your clients. And if we loop back to what I was talking about with mindset being everything, mindset is powerful, right? And if I am trying to shift my mindset and my thoughts in order to negate or dismiss or minimize or get rid of some of my emotional needs, because it would be easier. 

 

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And what do I mean by this? Well, if I have needs in my relationship with my partner, right? And these needs exist, maybe the need to feel loved, to feel appreciated, to feel accepted. Okay. And in my mind, I'm thinking that the problem in my relationship is that my partner doesn't respond when I ask him to do something. 

 

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My partner doesn't text when I text him and I have to wait a long time, right? We think it's these things happening outside of us. And then we have thoughts about them like he should be doing this. If he loved me, he would do this, right? 

 

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And so stay with me here. So here's the scenario, right? Emotional needs underneath existing. On the surface, what this looks like is frustrations with behaviors or circumstances. And along with that, we have thoughts about those situations. 

 

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So if we're approaching this from a mindset perspective, trying to shift our thoughts about it, we may start to look at this and say, okay, well, I'm just having expectations. I'm believing he should be different than he is. 

 

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And so if I can release this expectation and I can just change these thoughts, then it will all be fine. And the problem with this, and keep in mind, I'm just using one small example to hopefully like help you wrap your head around this. 

 

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But the problem is that I'm not addressing the underlying need that exists and I'm not helping myself to understand how I need to fill that need or have support in filling that need. And so what happens over time is we try to stop caring, drop expectations, but what we're doing is we're missing out on actually enhancing the relationship. 

 

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And this is where emotional needs come into play. So I want to talk with you for just a minute about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. And you can look this up online, you can Google it, and you can see a little chart like a pyramid picture. 

 

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But in simple terms, this was Maslow's hierarchy of needs is this theory that demonstrates that we as human beings have certain needs that must be met. And ultimately, these needs must be met. And they're kind of like, if you look at the pyramid online, it's like stacked up and it shows at the top is self-actualization or realizing full potential. 

 

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And so let's think about this. We all kind of idealize this idea of being selfless, of being giving, of being generous, of being able to serve, right? This is especially those of you here. This is what we're about. 

 

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And the reality is that if we want to be operating from our highest possible place where we are truly putting the most good out and the most capable of being of service, we actually have to first have our needs met. 

 

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And one of the basic thing, we need our basic needs met, right? We need food, we need water, we need shelter. One of the things that you will notice on there also is the emotional needs that we have and the need for safety and the need for belonging. 

 

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So I'm not going to go too much more into this, but the idea is that it is very easy for us to minimize and dismiss our own emotional needs. And we can think that we just need to be stronger or we need to be more resilient or we need to not care as much or we need to think differently. 

 

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But the reality is that we all have emotional needs and our emotional needs matter. And most people have been raised and conditioned and seen around them that feelings are a problem. My feelings are a burden to other people. 

 

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My feelings aren't rational. I should be more logical. I should learn to calm down and squelch and keep everything level emotionally because emotions are a problem and emotions are scary. And most people are never taught how to be with their own emotions and how to have their emotional needs met. 

 

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And I know I referenced this a little earlier in this episode, but when you can better understand your own emotional world, your own emotional needs, your own desires, and where it's lacking and where the gaps are. 

 

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And when you can begin to attend to those needs, when you can be able to begin to allow those needs to matter, to be valid, to take up space, something really magical happens. This is when you create greater self-connection. 

 

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This is when you create greater self-trust. Why? Because when your emotions come up, you're not ignoring them, minimizing them, or dismissing them. You're saying, hey, what's going on? And what do I need? 

 

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Think about a child going to a parent and every time the child has a need, the parent brushes them off and doesn't help them. How much trust is that child going to have in that parent? How safe is that child going to feel? 

 

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How connected are they going to feel? Not very much. And the same is true within us. So when we can acknowledge, validate, and make space for our emotional needs and learn how to attend to them, learn how to be with them, and learn how to advocate for those needs being met and being filled in our life and what we're asking for. 

 

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It creates self-connection. It creates greater self-trust. It creates greater confidence because you know that you as a human being in all of your needs are valid. It is a beautiful thing. And it is absolutely the crux of making the changes that we want and that we need relationally, financially, well-being wise, everything. 

 

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Okay, hopefully this is giving you a little deeper view of these three things. And I want to go ahead now and shift gears with you. As you take this all in, okay, really think about what landed for you? 

 

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What resonated? What from this podcast are you going to take into your life right now and use it? Okay. I want you to think about it. Email me. Let me know. I would love, love, love to hear. So I'm shifting gears because I am thrilled to be offering for the first time ever a seven-week intensive on the four fundamentals of lasting change. 

 

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This is where we're going to be talking about safe, effective, and ethical thought work, where we are going to be diving into the emotional world, the emotional needs, and what it looks like to actually understand our needs and work to begin to meet them and advocate for them to be met. 

 

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And how we do this, not only with ourselves, but with clients for those of you that are coaches. And so we're going to be talking about this deeper advanced mindset work, the emotion work, and really all of the four fundamentals, including the nervous system and action strategies. 

 

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So I want to tell you a little bit about this program because as this is the first time I'm offering it, I am offering first cohort pricing on this. And we begin April 6th. So it is right around the corner. 

 

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I announced this on the workshop this week and enrollment closes on March 31st. So we're right in it. And if you follow this work and you've been wanting to do something but haven't been ready for master coach training, this is the thing for you. 

 

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So let's talk a little bit about the four fundamentals of lasting change. And I want to talk about, if you can see my board here, I want to talk a little bit about why so many of us struggle to create change and why so many coaches are struggling with their coaching. 

 

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So why do they struggle? Because they have great tools, right? But what about when we get stuck? What about when the mindset work doesn't work and we're going on a hamster wheel of trying to change thoughts over and over again? 

 

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What about when we're moving forward with a plan of action and we or our client gets frozen? They seem to feel like they don't know what to do. They don't have that clarity or their emotions get so big that they just can't do it and they want to give up. 

 

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What do we do then? So what do we do when the tools are not working, right? Also, a lot of coaches struggle because I know you guys relate to this for yourself and also those you're working with. We have awareness. 

 

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I have awareness that the way I'm thinking is not helpful for me. But do I actually change? How many of you can relate to this? Your client sees a pattern. The client has the awareness and they acknowledge it. 

 

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But week after week, you're having the same conversation over and over again, right? It's a struggle. And also, you can get certification, but that's only going to give you methods. It doesn't teach you oftentimes how to actually work with a living, breathing human being in session. 

 

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A human being that's going to have emotional ups and downs, that has a nervous system that is interpreting everything and going into certain states, right? So certification is amazing, but unless it teaches you how to actually work with a living, breathing human being and all parts of people, it's going to fall short, right? 

 

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And also, a lot of coaches have that personal insecurity. How many of you relate to imposter syndrome? And especially because if you're struggling to move forward with your plan, if you're not meeting your goals, then how can I ever help anyone else to do this, right? 

 

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So these are some of the struggles. I know many of you relate to these. And I really want to speak to why I'm so passionate about the four fundamentals and how they are going to help you with every single one of these. 

 

 29:00

Okay. So let's talk about the four fundamentals. I've already hit on these, but I want to speak specifically to how these work in terms of moving you and your client forward, the mind. Understanding that we all have thought patterns that are happening over and over again, and that our thoughts are going to really create the framework of our life. 

 

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Our thoughts can either expand what's possible for us or limit what is possible for us. We have thought patterns on a regular basis and we have deeper beliefs that most of us aren't really aware of. Understanding the mind is crucial in terms of creating change. 

 

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Okay. Emotional world. I've already talked a lot about this. You've got to understand more about your emotional world and what your needs are in order to move forward. Why? Well, usually we're moving toward meeting goals and making changes because we're desperate to get these emotional needs met, but we just don't realize it. 

 

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And so when we can bring in this awareness and understanding of what our emotional needs are and how they fit into these goals, it allows us to move toward goals in a healthier and I'm going to say cleaner way, where we're not trying to, for example, I'm going to climb this ladder and achieve this thing because then I will feel worthy. 

 

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I will feel valued. Well, if we know there's an emotional need gap there, we want to work with that part of the person first, not just with their mindset, but with that emotional need piece. Okay. Super important. 

 

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The nervous system. The nervous system is the backdrop of all of our thoughts and emotions, and the nervous system has different states. You've heard of fight, flight, freeze, right? This is when the nervous system is in a sympathetic state, sympathetic nervous system state, and it makes it pretty difficult for us to have much access to that prefrontal cortex. 

 

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The prefrontal cortex is the part of your brain that works on strategy, planning ahead, reasoning, creativity, right? And also, that is how we are in connection, in relationship. And so you can imagine if you're working with a client who is more often in a bit of a trauma response and not in a parasympathetic nervous system state where they have access to their prefrontal cortex, guess what? 

 

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You're not going to be able to get very far. You need to understand the nervous system in order to coach effectively. And action strategies. There is a lot of power in writing things down, in having a plan, and in implementing behavior changes incrementally in ways that will last and that will support the needs that you and your client have, that will support the identity shifts or belief shifts that you're wanting to make, 

 

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and those action plans incrementally that allow the nervous system to feel safe because things aren't changing radically. So these are the four fundamentals. And again, I mentioned them as separate, but the integration of these is what is absolutely crucial. 

 

 32:20

Absolutely crucial. So I want to talk about what the seven week intensive is going to be, okay? Seven week intensive, we begin April 6th. We have a training that drops that day because that is Easter Monday and I know a lot of people have things going on. 

 

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So the training is going to be dropped. You can watch it at any time. Other than that, every single call is live with me two days a week. So we have live teaching every Monday and then we have live integration time every Wednesday. 

 

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So that first call of the week is going to be a training where I'm teaching you, answering your questions and engaging with you. And you will have a success guide, which is a specialized worksheet to help you understand it for you and for your clients. 

 

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Then we're going to come back on that Wednesday and we're going to talk about how you're actually integrating the concept, how you're using it for you, how you're using it for your client. This is where not only can we do some back and forth and answer questions and give guidance for you or your clients, but I can also offer coaching where I'm actually demonstrating how we use these four fundamentals. 

 

 33:25

So this is the flow of the seven weeks. We have live teaching, Q  ⁇ A, working with it. We have a little bit of space. Then we have integration day where we're saying, okay, this is what we learned. And then this is what we experienced in integrating this. 

 

 33:39

Now, where are we? And how do we answer the remaining questions and really embody this? Okay. This seven-week intensive is the foundation of this four-part framework. So obviously my full-year master coach training where we're weaving this throughout the whole year is not the same as the seven-week training. 

 

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However, you will get the foundation of these four fundamentals and it will already change the way you coach. Okay. It's going to expand your abilities as someone guiding change in others and it is absolutely going to change you. 

 

 34:16

Absolutely. Okay. Let's talk a little bit about what you will know as a result of this. And right now I'm speaking specifically to those of you that are coaches. You will know how to speak your client's language. 

 

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What do I mean by this? How many of you have experienced you start talking to your client about looking at their thoughts and they're like, what are you talking about? I just want a plan of action. Or how many of you bring up emotions with your client and it's like, I don't really want to go there. 

 

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Like, I don't need to talk about this kind of woo-woo stuff, right? And so you can absolutely work with the whole human being while speaking your client's language and knowing what is the best entry point for them, knowing what is going to interest them, what will engage them, what will get them on board with making the changes. 

 

 35:01

So you're going to learn how to speak their language. You're going to learn how to move with your client and their needs. What this means is that we have these four fundamentals and we may start with one approach with a client and pretty soon we see, okay, we got to go in this other direction because we were talking about mindset here. 

 

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And now I'm seeing we got to slow down and we need to make sure that we're regulated. So this is going to allow you to move with your client in sessions seamlessly. You're also going to learn to work with resistance. 

 

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Resistance in clients, what is underneath that? There's going to be some fear. There's some protection there. You're going to be able to work with resistance. Resistance is never a problem with our clients. 

 

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Resistance is an opportunity to lean in and get traction and do the deeper work. Okay, so you're going to learn how to work with resistance. You're also going to learn how to address sabotage and shutdown. 

 

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Self-sabotage is a real thing. Shutdown is a real thing. And guess what? That nervous system, boy, it does its job well. It wants to help us survive. It's not too interested in making sure that we change. 

 

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It wants to make sure that we survive. So these are all the things that will be huge takeaways from this training. Let's talk a little bit about what this includes, all right? Seven weeks of live mentorship. 

 

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This is not a DIY program. This is me working with you live to help you personally to integrate. Okay. You will have replays available. All the replays will be there in your membership portal, so you don't have to worry about it. 

 

 36:32

You will also get a trauma-informed training. So not only is this training done through a trauma-informed lens, but I have a training series on being trauma-informed, safe, and ethical, as well as exams that go along with them. 

 

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So this is a bonus that you get alongside this. This is not a certification, by the way, but it is the training to help inform you so that you can be safe and ethical and know when and how you can help your clients and when to refer out. 

 

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Okay. You're going to get also, I'm excited about this, there's a four-part advanced workshop that is on demand. So what that means is as soon as you sign up, you will have these four hours. And I'm telling you, this four-part workshop is some of the most high-quality advanced work that I have offered. 

 

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And so you are absolutely going to love it. And it's only going to increase your ability to use all of this. So there is one on the mind, emotions, the nervous system, and action strategies as well. And then you'll also be a part of our Slack community, which is fantastic. 

 

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All right, let's see what else I've got on my little flip chart here. Make sure I'm covering everything. Okay, who is this for? This is for you if you're a coach ready to sharpen your skills and you want to understand not only these four fundamentals, but how they integrate. 

 

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Okay, this is definitely for you if you like a program that is a start and finish and you don't want to get lost in just a sea of training videos and you don't really want something that's ongoing because I have my ongoing community, but this is like, okay, we start here, we finish here, we're working together through the curriculum, okay? 

 

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And also, of course, this is perfect for you if you are not yet ready for a full year certification program, okay? And also, I don't know if those of you that are watching this, you can see I have hand holding here. 

 

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Like it's fine to have a little handholding and that's what I'm going to do with you. I'm going to be there with you every week, helping you to understand and integrate the information. Okay. So as we wrap up today, I hope you are already beginning to see the possibilities that exist when you are able to understand more about the human being that you are and the human beings that you're working with. 

 

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I hope you're able to see that the places you're getting stuck or frustrated with yourself or your client, there's a reason for them. There are psychological and physiological reasons that you're getting stuck. 

 

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It's not because there's something wrong with you, but there's probably not just some information that you're missing, but an understanding of what to do with that information and how to integrate it. 

 

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And this is why I love doing this work. I cannot begin to tell you one of the things that we had on the workshop this week was a master coach panel and listening to my master coaches that were trained in my program and how they are using this work and hearing them speak to the unbelievable transformations that they see their clients go through. 

 

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And not only that, but they are able to feel so confident and connected with their clients every step along the way because they know exactly what their client needs. They know when they need to attend to the nervous system and regulate. 

 

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They know when their client has emotions that need to be processed. They know and understand how to speak their client's language, meet them where they are, and work with them in just the most effective, gentle, and growth promoting way. 

 

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It is so powerful. Okay, that's what I've got for you. Thank you for being here. If you're ready to join me, check the link in my bio or you can go to mollyclare.com. Any questions, as always, message team at mollyclare.com and we will help you out. 

 

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I would love to have you. Enrollment closes March 31st. We begin April 6th and I cannot wait to see you there. Have a good one and I'll talk with you next week.